It’s ok to be knee-deep, mid-swing, in the thick of it…. and change your mind.
DO NOT let anyone convince you to go against your gut and follow through to honor a commitment when your soul is urging you to reconsider!
I have made some horrible choices in the past because I wanted to ‘do the right thing’, well guess what?
The right thing might be the fawning response disguised as the desire to follow through to make yourself feel honorable and trustworthy because your people-pleasing behavior has been an unconscious coping strategy for most of your life.
So unfortunately you will make mistakes, and say yes to things that are likely a ‘no’.
You might remain in friendships, relationships, or careers for many years even though a part of you knows it is no longer in alignment.
You might make yourself available for things that drain you, dismiss your needs, or feel like you get into situations where you are not respected with the same respect you offer.
You are not a bad person for finding yourself in the midst of these situations.
This does not necessarily mean you should walk away from commitments, void contracts, or end relationships. These are personal decisions to evaluate and reflect on.
There is a duality to this as there is with everything. Another response I had to work on was balancing the release of things that made me uncomfortable but were still worth fighting for and holding onto. This is difficult when you don’t trust yourself and can lead to abruptly cutting out people or walking away from situations that still have enormous value, love, and connection available.
Only you can discern this difference. I m grateful I hung in there with certain experiences that today are gifts because I was intentional about moving them forward with love and grace.
Every time I sit with my situation and reflect on the choices I made, I am then offered the opportunity to clean it up in a way that honors the greater good.
This is tricky because you doing what is best for you might look like a negative action or not feel good to someone else, especially when a boundary is created and held and they are used to you responding differently.
If someone repeatedly crosses a boundary with me they will get a different version of me compared to someone who treats me with respect, therefore they might feel I am not genuine, when in fact I am, they are just no longer going to receive the precious resources of my time, presence, or generosity.
It is safe to renegotiate your needs, in fact it is necessary
You do not owe anyone an explanation, yet your soul is witnessing your every move…honor it, be a safe home for it, and hold it gently while navigating hard things~